Memories...
Monday, October 03, 2005
I took some time off from the weekend to myself..just to clear some thoughts.
Sat night at paradigm was one of the busiest so far since i worked there..didnt help that there were onli me and another person taking orders, so at one point there was a lot of confusion over who ordered what drinks. And the thing bout working at a club is that you gotta be extra sensitive to the people there, coz half of them are semi-drunk haha..
I do enjoy working there though..and i dun think i wud stop anytime soon. On very good terms with my colleagues there, including the managers and the bartenders. Haha, the bouncers are very interesting and funny people too, despite the fact that they always put up this fierce face. You get to meet all kinds of people working at a club haha..Certainly a lot of perks, but the massive amount of 2nd hand smoke which i m exposed to kinda gives me a sore throat and flu the next dae.
Thanks Mayi, for the nice little chat we had yesterdae. :) You give me a different yet sensible and down-to-earth perspective of things, and i m sure glad that i got to know you since SLC 2004 haha! Cant wait for this year's SLC oredi heh.
I realize i have a little problem. Sometimes when i get very close to a person, I ll feel that i m losing myself, and i ll need to pull back to my personal space again.
Dr John Gray, author of "MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS", says that:
"Men are akin to hunters, who need to retreat into their caves once in a while and spend some time gazing at the fire pit. In this period of time, it is very important that the hunters need to be left alone. Women, esp the wives, must understand that in this period where the men are in solitude and hiding in the caves, it doesnt mean that the men are angry with them.
It doesnt mean that the women and the wives themselves are responsible for anything. Sometimes men just need time for themselves, alone from their wives. The danger here is that the more the wives try to drag their men out from their caves, the more the men DUN WANT to come out of the cave. Men will appreciate it if their wives are understanding enough to give these hunters a break, and do not blame them when they eventually come out of their caves.
The truth is that more often than not, when the hunters come out of their caves by themselves, they feel refreshed, glowing, ready to love, and to give to their partners again. If they are constantly bugged or blamed by their wives during this period in the cave, they will never fully come out of their cave, and may even feel resentment, esp when the wives start saying things like "How could you leave me alone for this period!!/ You didnt message or reply me for 2 days!!/ You dun like me anymore izzit?!!/ and the worst thing to say is...
/I bet you like another girl or have another girl on your mind!!!"
When this happens, the attraction and respect which the man have for his women may slowly slowly fizzle out..Men hate to be doubted by the very women they love, and real men do not like needy women. Many times the men may not say anything, but inside his heart, resentment starts to accumulate.
So what can a woman do when her man is in the cave? Simple. Just continue with your own life, keep yourself occupied with other things, and stay HAPPY. Most importantly, believe that your man will return from his cave back into your arms. If he doesnt, he was never the one meant to be. Show how much you missed him when he was away in the right manner, not using sarcasm or despise like those statements above.
Some women never understand this for their entire lives. That is why some men never come out of their caves back to their women. Instead, they drilled a hole and went in further into the cave.
So you see, men are like rubber bands. And whoever thinks that men are simple basic creatures might want to think again. Give the space your man deserves, and you will be rewarded. A lot of times the men are bothered by issues such as work, career, friends, family, financial status, studies, and not by you. Remember that, and dun blame yourself or blame him.
Then of course, women are like waves, but that is another story for another blog..."
