Memories...
Friday, March 28, 2008
ON WOMEN AND THE APPRECIATION OF DEPRECIATION?
Most ladies I noe appear to be wary of growing old. That explains why women seem to be so sensitive with regards to revealing their age, esp in the workplace (A painful lesson I learnt during my internship heh).
(Then again, not revealing age could be a ploy to act more mysterious & enigmatic to us guys, but thats another story for another blog entry for next time heh heh.)
Of coz, it doesnt help with the provincial thinking of family/relatives/friends/colleagues that places pressure on a woman to get attached or married esp when she approaches the 30s. And the fact that scientific studies of evolutionary behaviour have proven that a woman's fertility and figure do depreciate with time. (Unless u are some tai tai or Madonna who can afford and keep going for MarieFrance Bodyline)
Last but not least, i m pretty sure no girl ever wants to be labelled as a "Lao3 cu4 nu3".
And I have read somewhere before that quite a substantial percentage of girls measure their self-worth according to the value of their relationships in life. Which is why having a boyfriend, a husband, a family, and of coz, kids, are so integral to a woman's sense of balance and stability in life. (Note that obviously, not all girls are like this, and I am sure feminists like Lydia would very much disagree with the previous notion.)
Anyway, I am digressing.
The point I want to make is that actually, women shouldnt feel too worried as they grow older. I believe that there are many men out there, wonderful men, who appreciate the maturity, confidence, stability, intelligence, & sophistication of older women. Yes, younger women may sometimes look better, sexier, etc. But their mindset and immaturity can really be a turnoff for many older guys.
This can explain why many year4 guys dun or choose not to date year1 girls.
And I think many guys look for a different set of qualities in a lady as they grow older themselves. As we grow older, most of us are more confident & sure of what kind of qualities we look for in a partner. Maturity, stability, & intelligence- traits often associated with older women, become more attractive to men. (Again, this may not apply to all guys, esp those who have never gone through a relationship before.)
The key is that women should embrace themselves getting older with a tinge of gracefulness. That in itself can be very attractive to men.
So you see, we men aren't necessarily so shallow after all. (Note: necessarily)
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P.S.: (This entry was inspired by the weekly talk-cock session between the DD boys of the author, Daniel, Sean, Terence and Kelvin Fu. The author most certainly does not speak for all men.)
