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Sunday, April 06, 2008
ON DATING TALLER WOMEN
I read an interesting Sunday Times article today about whether height matters when it comes to love. It was quite funny actually, esp the part whereby Carla Bruni gotta wear flats so as not to overshadow French President Nicolas Sarkozy. It also reminded me of how the Taiwanese put up an extra block for Frank Hsieh to stand on when he debated with Ma Ying-Jeou, so as to even up the height.
Indeed, from a not-very-tall guy' s perspective, I would think that most ladies do prefer dating a taller guy. Nothing wrong with that, esp as this can be traced to evolutionary genes (I am using this term more frequently after taking up the Animal Behaviour module haha). When we were hunter-gatherers, a man's physical attributes mattered. The taller the man, the more likely he was to bring home the bacon.
I have dated taller ladies in the past, and I would think that what matters a lot is confidence. And of coz, maintaining your humour, intelligence, and unique personality. I have seen male friends together with taller girls as well, but the problem is that becoz of societal norms and perceptions, people keep poking fun at their so-called 'incompatible' height. Or lament that they look like siblings instead of partners. In this case, either partner, even when confident of their relationship previously, gets undue external stress or pressure to conform.
Women want to feel safe and secure nestling in the crook of men's arms. While men want to feel empowered and strong in embracing their loved one. Does height and size matter then? Oh yes they definitely do. But is it everything? No i dun think so.
The worst thing to do for short men is to actually feel and display insecurity about their height. Actually, that applies to every other negative physical trait for both tall and short men. I think women in general are superb at sniffing out insecurities in men. God gave them this filter to separate the potential partners from the wussies (Again, an evolutionary gene I must add. Hyenas in particular, literally sniff out each other's arse to determine mating compatibility).
So to sum up, i think its important to learn to love and accept yourself, and you ll become much more attractive to others around, regardless of being tall or short, fat or thin, bald or curly-haired.
And granted, definitely not all women go for shorter guys, so if u are short, its good to noe whether your potential partner fits into this category. If she's not into you becoz of height or physical attributes, heck man. Just move on. I dun think u ll want to be with her anyway.
Real men have the power and confidence to walk away. Wussies stay on and beg for attention and acceptance.
(P.S: The author also thinks that it is ridiculous for men to ask women not to wear heels so as to tower over them. Heels, besides the G-string, is probably 1 of the greatest invention of mankind for women. Women look fantastic and classy in heels, so please, dun take it lying down if your boyfriend ask u not to wear heels. Besides, heels offer a potential weapon against molesters or other possible intruders. Manz, have u ever been stepped on by heels?)
