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Wednesday, April 23, 2008
ON SHOWING RESPECT FOR ONE ANOTHER'S CAREER CHOICES & JOBS
I wanted to blog about this for quite some time oredi, but kept forgetting.
Basically, my point is that I dun really think that there's such a thing as a perfect job. I believe that every occupation, in whichever sector or industry, ll always have its own pros & cons. The key thing then, is to align this assessment of a company's pros and cons towards your own goals and passion.
Meaning to say, you need to noe what you want 1st in life. What is the type of career u are looking at, and then zoom in into the industry, and then zoom in even further into the exact companies that u would possibly like to join.
I think many people around, myself included at times, are often too quick to judge the jobs of others. And i have read before that many human beings just enjoy putting others down, or what we say in Chinese: "poar1 len2 shui3 aka pour cold water". Some authors have argued that this is human nature in its most Machiavellian form, relishing the sight of others falling or being less successful than you are.
The most funny thing I feel is that, more often than not, those who criticize the jobs of others, may not even be qualified to enter the same job him/herself. Lets say u need this qualification AA to enter this job. Your friend has it. Decides to apply. Successful. You dun even have this AA qualification, meaning u dun even have a chance to attain that job which your friend gotten. But yet u make snide remarks..eg. saying that particular company got no prospects, poor pay, bad reputation blah blah blah.
I just think its ironic sometimes. Whatever give u the position to criticize that job in the 1st place when u dun even qualify for it? Why talk so much and demean your friend's efforts when that company may not even want u in the 1st place? While its possible that you are simply concerned for your friend, but that too can most certainly be displayed in a more tactful & understanding manner/ tone.
At the end of the dae, different people have different talents, different strengths, different aspirations, different self-actualization visions of themselves, different dreams, and different paths they want to pursue in life. The biggest mistake one can make is to assume that others shud take the same exact route down like u.
And I believe that it is up to each individual as a mature adult to decide for him/herself what is the best course of career path or job to take up. Yes, advice from friends can help. But sometimes, even our own friends and family members do not noe what we truly want deep down ourselves.
So the bottom line is, think hard with your mind and listen to your heart. At the same time, be tactful towards others who are still finding jobs, or who have found a job that may not be to your own liking.
A little mutual respect towards each other can go a long way. Esp when job-hunting is such a sensitive issue to many people and graduating students.
Moreover, at the end of the dae, most people's first job would not be their last. Even if u have made a mistake in joining a "mis-matched" company so to speak, learn from it and move on. And it ll also give a much clearer picture of your own future.
