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Wednesday, April 16, 2008
ON EQ AND TRYING TOO HARD
Jiajia recently blogged about the salience of EQ. I couldnt agree more. Seriously.
Some people think they are damn smart, and got high IQ, but whats the point when they can't even get along with their colleagues, classmates, or the people around them? I m not saying they have to though. But really, the importance of EQ cannot be underestimated, no matter which stage of life you are in.
On another note, I think that in life, while it is excellent to try very hard, but sometimes there are occasions when it may be better not to try too hard. By that, I mean trying too hard to impress others, trying too hard to get others to accept you, trying too hard to fit into the social circles of others, trying too hard to fit into the norms and mores of others who may not be compatible with you, and trying too hard to make a girl like u (even though she oredi made it clear that u shud screw off).
My 2 arguments here are actually correlated. In the sense that people with low EQ may perhaps try too hard, but do not get the results they desired. And of coz, it goes without saying that those with low EQ often do not even noe that they are trying too hard.
So, is the situation here hopeless then, for these people?
Thankfully not. But they ll need to learn to accept their own flaws, their own shortcomings, their own limits, while respecting that of others.
Trying hard is good, but sometimes, trying too hard really ends up having the reverse effect and turns people off.
Some feasible tips:
a) Think fast. Talk slow.
b) Chill.
c) Sharpen the saw.
